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You should avoid anything that genuinely gets in the way of a relationship. There's two really important things to keep in mind about this though:

1 - They may have different expectations than you. Some people want a relationship where you two see each other 16 hours a day, every day, rain or shine. Others can obviously find that a lot more smothering and are fully comfortable seeing you once a week or even once a month. So what you might perceive as being friends or hobbies dragging your boyfriend or girlfriend away from you all the time might be how they want an expect the relationship to be. It's important to share these kinds of needs and concerns with them. After all, they're probably not aware of how pushed away you feel.

2 - Friends of the opposite gender aren't competition. People usually freak out much more if their significant other is hanging out with a bunch of people of the opposite gender than they would if they were with their own gender. Just because your girlfriend is buddies with lots of guys doesn't necessarily mean she's looking to replace you. Perhaps she has mostly male co-workers and has become friends with them. Maybe she's a fan of football and, not shockingly, can't find other women who want to jump up and down during Sunday's game. There's always a chance that she just doesn't mesh well with the typical feminine attitude. In short, look for actual reasons, don't just leap to conclusions.

Number 2 is a huge problem I had that pushed me away from one girl that was actually one of the only girlfriends I've had that's been loyal to me. I was too paranoid and it pushed her away to the point she no longer felt feelings for me at all.

So people, ESPECIALLY US MEN, I'm talking to you all, give your girl some space, trust her a bit and don't be controlling. This is from my personal experience. Though I'm no expert of course, I'm pretty sure everyone will agree with me being controlling and paranoid and using the excuse 'well I'm just concerned' ain't the way to go.

Now I got a question. What do you do if you feel you love someone but you feel things are going way too fast?

Like anything else where you're starting to get carried away or out of control, you need to put conscious effort into paying attention and making each decision consciously rather than reflexively.

This, unfortunately, is one of those things which is very easy to understand, but not very easy to do.

Yes, they do need space and do need to feel trusted. I have another question for everyone that is what this is about its a normal relationship question. Okay, I have noticed that alot of relationships dont last long cause one of the people in the relationship is letting the opposite sex make moves on them. They do nothing to stop it. If you was in this spot what would you do?

I personally would get hot headed cause that goes to show that my partner is letting some other person step over the line into trying to get them away from me. If you say you care and love someone then why let someone step over that line. You know it will get back to you or your partner. Well, it would make me hot if they dont stop that person from stepping over the line.

I want to hear your input on this.

Personally, I don't think it's my responsibility. I mean, people aren't obligated to date everyone who makes a pass at them. If my significant other doesn't have the will and devotion to stand up for his or her self and tell people like that to go jump off a bridge, you can take them since they're clearly not of the character I thought they were.

If you have to be jealous because of how your boyfriend or girlfriend acts, they have proven themselves to be unworthy of your devotion, and thus, your jealousy.

wow thats a good thought on this subject.

Speaking of thought, I believe one of the reasons so few people share my view on things like jealousy is because people often disconnect their significant other from their actions. As he or she starts doing things which bother or hurt us less and less we actually love the person and more and more we love the idea of the person. We stay with them because we are in love with the idealistic vision of them we have from when we first flirted and anything we didn't know about them was filled in with our ideas of perfection.